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Why last week was difficult


My wife has had many bad interactions with various birth controls over the years, including allergic reactions to some. The worst of her problems lately has been menstral migranes on the week when she's not taking the pill.

This escalated recently, and the GYN decided to try the Depo-Provera shot. It worked, but emotionally she felt flat. Because of this, she asked for something else, and got the NuvaRing. Sure enough, the menstral migrane was back and this time with a vengence that lasted over a week. So back to GYN...

Now, this GYN, there were other issues with. From the way my wife talked, she couldn't understand him half the time, and the other half of the time he was very terse. Basically, bad vibes all around. And he recommended Mirena. My wife grew up as a child of the 80's, when there was a lot of news of having issues with IUDs. So combining all of this, she freaked.

The GYN basically told her to do research on the net herself regarding Mirena. Yeah, here's this woman crying in your office and he's blowing her off. *grr* So after she got home and I calmed her down, we investigated Mirena. What we saw was, frankly, frightening even me. Lots of people with weight gain, and even more people talking about how screwed up their emotions got. I remember many post of people who were having mood swings to the level of wanting to scratch their lover's eyes out who were finally able to understand it came from the hormones in Mirena. Since my wife had the bad experience with the Depo-Provera shot, and was reading all these horror stories, she wasn't willing to even try Mirena.

At my insistance, she got a second opinion from a very nice GYN (I went with her to this appointment.) She's now on continual birth control - one of the Norinyls. Since it's continual, it should address the menstral migranes and also reduce the lining and therefore the need to shed. Unfortunately, she does require the hormones because she doesn't ovulate and won't shed otherwise. So she needs something or she has an increased risk of endometrial cancer. =(

But her reaction to the GYN who recommended the IUD was frightening. She literally came home in tears, ran upstairs and continued for some time. It took a good minute or two before she could even form words so that I knew what was happening. Not good, and thus my comments about possibly not being around.

I made a phone post yesterday which never made it to LJ. *shrug* Nothing of importance anyway, so I'm not heartbroken.

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cahwyguy
Nov. 23rd, 2005 05:51 pm (UTC)
Well, I don't know how old you are, or if you are planning on having kids in the future. I know for us, after our daughter was born and we decided we weren't going to have more, I got the snip-snip. Made it so my wife didn't have deal with all those drugs. Your milage may vary, but if kids aren't ever going to be added, it might be worth considering given her reactions.
cahwyguy
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:06 pm (UTC)
Ignore my comment. I missed the need for hormones.
rialtus
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:41 pm (UTC)
Even though you already caught the other part, I did want to mention that we indeed are not planning on children. My wife loves saying that she has 25 of 'em, and she leaves them at work every day at 2:30 to come home. (Can ya tell she's a school teacher?)
cahwyguy
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:50 pm (UTC)
Well, if you ever need to know "snip-snip" experiences, let me know. Just remember that frozen peas are your friend :-).
rialtus
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:53 pm (UTC)
*laugh* One of the guys on the Metrolink just had the surgery about three weeks ago, and mentioned that peas were the ideal package for that.
zarchasmpgmr
Nov. 23rd, 2005 07:56 pm (UTC)
package

Hee hee.
rialtus
Nov. 24th, 2005 09:42 pm (UTC)
<Austin Powers>Oh, bee-haave....</Austin Powers>
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rialtus
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:46 pm (UTC)
At this point, she's pretty much freaking out about any IUD. This whole thing is really more driven by hormones than birth control, but we've already had several discussions regarding the ol' snip-snip and/or tubes tied. We decided that, since she has to deal with the mess for other reasons, that's the solution for us right now. If there was something that controlled hormones without addressing birth control, one or both of us would likely be taking the walk to the doctor with a knife.
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msmcfeeley
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:09 pm (UTC)
Ughhhh that stuff sucks :(
More important though is to find a GOOD GYN... and it sounds like the 'very nice' one you guys went to is the one to keep going to. People like the first one shouldn't have a license... but I must say this dude: you fucking ROCK for going with her to her appointment and being there for her emotionally. A lot of guys would just shrug it off and let the wife deal with the 'woman stuff' on her own. You just went up quite a few notches in my book :) Not that you were down for any bad reasons but you know, since you're a guy you're a few notches down from females ANYWAY. Just sayin'. :D
rialtus
Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:51 pm (UTC)
I figure the last GYN we saw had to be good - his name was Karl! I've mentioned to Jen that I liked the way this guy talked with (not to) her, and she agreed. She's making it a point to request him from now on.

About the other, well, ain't that part of the "in good times and bad"? I knew the job was dangerous when I took it. =)
msmcfeeley
Nov. 23rd, 2005 07:43 pm (UTC)
Interesting she goes to a male... I have only gone to females before mostly because I just think that another female would relate better to the issues involved since they are very emotional (and hormone driven) and not just physical. But I'm glad she found a 'keeper' now :)

And yup, for better or worse :) But that doesn't always hold true so she's very lucky :)
gaby723
Nov. 23rd, 2005 11:19 pm (UTC)
Wow. First, that first doctor is an ass. I'm sooo fortunate in that the doctors I've had have been fabulous. God I hope I can find a good one here. Second, kudos to you for going with Jen. I'm sure you're getting major husband points :)
rialtus
Nov. 24th, 2005 09:46 pm (UTC)
Yeah, especially when dealing with those personal areas, you really want someone you can feel comfortable with. I think this last guy might be that one for her. *crosses fingers*
jumbach
Nov. 24th, 2005 04:14 am (UTC)
I am learning more than I ever thought I'd know about female issues like this. Part of being married, I guess. :-)
rialtus
Nov. 24th, 2005 09:53 pm (UTC)
Oh, you've only just begun, my friend... =)
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Oct. 27th, 2008 09:11 am (UTC)
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