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This post brought to you by the letter...

I have written once here about my sister, and many of you might remember that it wasn't pleasant. Want a recap? Well, there is an update, courtesy of my father.

Same rules apply as my previous post -- I'm putting it behind the cut tag, and my feelings will not be hurt if you don't want to read this post.

I got the following email from my father.

Got a phone call from your sister yesterday and she called just to ask if she could send a letter here that is for you and if I would get it to you. I told her it was okay as far as I was concerned. She said that she would mail it yesterday. So you can expect to finally hear from her. Is that great or what? It only took her how many years to finally get around to contacting you? I will let you know when it gets here.

Well... that came as a shock, right up to until I thought about it for a bit. My sister plays nice when she feels that she is being left out of things. Gee, what thing might be happening soon, specifically with me, that she would be left out of? Hmm... you'd think I'd know the answer to this. Let's see... Oh yeah. I'm getting married. That might be it. Now, my brother-in-law (her ex-husband), nephew (her son) and my bro-in-law's new woman just got back from a vacation. They came home to a wedding invitation, which we just got the response on.

And guess who might have heard and wondered where her invite was?

Now I don't know what the letter says. It may be in transit to my parents at this point. It might be all sugar and spice, trying to convince me that she has cleaned up her act and belongs in my life (hidden agenda: my wedding). It could be ripping me a new a-hole because she feels like she should have been invited strictly because she's family by blood. *shrug* At this point, I have asked my dad to deliver the letter to me, and thus relieving him of any responsibility to my sister. I have not yet decided what I will be doing with the letter, when I get it. I have a shredder, a set of eyes, a brain, and a heart. At least one of these items will be used.


And that's why I'm being cynical today. =)

Comments

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missingdonut
Apr. 3rd, 2003 10:18 pm (UTC)
I hope not the shredder, although depending on the contents of the letter, the shredder might just be the most desirable final resting place.

Thanks for sharing this... I hope you at least share the general tone of the letter with us... and I hope you make what you feel is the best decision.
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 01:45 pm (UTC)
I promise you this -- I will think about it long and hard before shredding the letter without opening it...
jumbach
Apr. 3rd, 2003 10:31 pm (UTC)
Gee, imagine how she'd be if you just won the Lotto. . . :-/
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 01:46 pm (UTC)
Or rather, imagine how I'd be if she won the Lotto. I thought about this, and feel that my attitude wouldn't change one slick bit, frankly. =)
bedsidemanor
Apr. 4th, 2003 12:49 am (UTC)
That's rather unfortunate...fair-weather friends are bad enough. Fair-weather Family will really shake your faith in the whole Family Unit Thing.

On the other hand...a wedding is pretty special. It'll probably mean more for her to be there than it will impact you, since you'll have tons of people to pay attention to.
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 01:52 pm (UTC)
It'll probably mean more for her to be there than it will impact you, since you'll have tons of people to pay attention to.

While you are probably right, having her there at that point would introduce certain ... complications. Besides, I'm not entirely sure that it's appropriate to have someone that I haven't talked to for over three years because of a mutual (though undiscussed) agreement to suddendly be at something like a wedding. Family or no, it's just some bad mojo for me. In any case, we'll see, based on the letter... if I read it ... *sigh*
jiggery_pokery
Apr. 4th, 2003 04:58 am (UTC)
Ugh. I can think of no advice to offer, only sympathy.
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 01:53 pm (UTC)
[sarcasm]Well, then, what good are ya, Chris?!?! [/sarcasm]
teppanyaki
Apr. 4th, 2003 06:02 am (UTC)
I can relate somewhat with Rialtus only because C's got a sister like that -- she's sent back a birthday card that my mother-in-law sent to her with "Return to Sender" on it.

Don't stress too much over it, Carl -- it's not worth it.

Dysfunctionality -- it's Fannnnntastic!
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 01:58 pm (UTC)
As the commercial says, "Stress stinks." I fear this is one of those sit and wait things, and I'm too damned busy to sit while waiting!
zarchasmpgmr
Apr. 4th, 2003 06:11 am (UTC)
Thanks for linking to your original post (I wasn't on LJ at the time).

My heartfelt sympathies go out. This is not a fun situation.

There's some sort of rift between my parents and his cousin in Show Low, and it's related to his other cousin from Santa Rosa...I'm still not sure of everything that happened - and whatever happened occurred about 3 years ago. But the cousins are visiting right now, so things must be reconciled.

Family disagreements can run deep and be very painful. I don't envy your decision. (Time for Dear Abby? :-| )
rialtus
Apr. 4th, 2003 02:03 pm (UTC)
Time for Dear Abby? :-|

*chuckle* Nah, I think it's time for Jerry Springer! All this and an audience to boot! =) Seriously, though, I'm surprised that I've even posted as much as I have about the situation here. A nation wide (international) audience is really just not a good thing, even with my name obscured...
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